Many times I think “I was so happy home schooling my kids”…….why
I ever thought of Aarohi? What made me to take this trouble on my head…….I scratch
my head when I am disappointed…………..ah! why I am disappointed?
When I see kids in last few years walking with confidence in
their thoughts……….I feel all the efforts are worth………………….why do I think its
worth?
Dedicating this year to DISCOVER.....................read below
“Nothing you become will disappoint me; I have no preconception that I'd like to see you be or do. I have no desire to forsee you, only to discover you. You can't disappoint me” - Mary Haskell
I just loved this thought "only to discover you". Thank you subha for sharing..............let
me make all relationships "only to discover..................so no
disappointments" :).
Shubha keeps talking about: unconditional love”. What is
this unconditional love?
I keep hearing “I am doing this for my child/ren”. Is this thought
itself is conditional?
I am on holiday for past two days…………I announced “I have
taken holidays for a week, I want to spend time together, I want to relax, I do
not want to go to Wonderla for you but for me. I want to go for shopping for
myself…………………..I realized this announcement was liberating for me, Rat and my
kids too :)
I used to tell Asa/ Dhup “If you have to become something,
you have to..............…” while I was free from conventional success patterns, I was still stuck at success in some forms…………..…I was so wrong, I was
still creating images of “expectations”…………………And the result often was
disappointment.
In past few years “discovering” has become prime agenda of
my parenting/ facilitating…………….and there are no disappointments.
I realized when I have no images of “become something” my
kids too have no image of my parenting too - we all are free from all disappointments.
For me the meaning of education has changed from preparing
the child for tomorrow to “discover”. Definition of duty as parent has changed
from safety to "discover".
Discover me, the child, the relationship................list is long.
5 comments:
Which means Aarohi is not about "making children confident. So they need not 'walk with confidence'. Or for that matter walk with "anything".
They are free only when they are free of expectations.
So in some way if i need to know what is Aarohi about - i can say it is about giving children an environment which is free of expectations. Then they can grow naturally. And to do that i only need to be free of my expectations.
Just as in nature - there is o expectation of any plant of animal. They grow and glow each on its own accord. Yes there is so much harmony in nature!
Thanks Aditi for sharing this.
Loved this :I keep hearing “I am doing this for my child/ren”. Is this thought itself is conditional?
Also thinking putting condition on self not to have any expectations.. is a condtional acceptance of self.
Making me wonder....
Shubahn Alalh Rat
So this also takes away any expectations from any faculty too...............we all are LEARNERS and grow naturally. We do not carry the burden of "quality of Aarohi"............this also matches up with fading away co-ordinator's role................we all co-create and co-exist.
This also matches up with "parent as partner".
ha ha queen of pondering subha - you have to start another thoughts for me to keep occupy :)
for me conditional and condition are two different things.
I cannot put condition on me for a long - that will too mean and useless. Useless, because it works on surface and re-appears when I no more can take it..............enough type.
Free of expectation is journey not a process............does this fuels another thought in you?
Took a liking to the quote, desire to develop an attitude like this towards myself and children.
Wouldn't the thought 'only to discover you' aid in the journey of 'Empowerement?'
What if? I could tell my child 'Nothing you become will disappoint me.'
Would it not challenge my belief 'One should become successful.'
What if ? I could tell me child 'I have no preconception that I'd like to see you be or do.'
Don't I have my own images about how my child should be?
What if? I could tell my child 'I have no desire to forsee you, only to discover you.'
What does that mean?
Does that mean that there is already something in 'YOU' that is to be DIS COVERED?
What if? I could tell my child 'you can't disappoint me.'
Does that happen, how often do I feel disappointed by things that my child does?
Do I see that, it is not about an act, it is about the child.
Do I actually see every problem as an opportunity to learn?
DIS Covering or Covering myself? Is the big question I ask myself,
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