Marriage

This is dated 25th jan, 2011

Today, after dance class my daughter (12yrs) was upset with my son (6 yrs) “he was telling girls I want to marry you, now no one will talk to you”.

My son said “I only said to one girl, she did not listen to me, so I said to another girl, that’s all, I did not say to all the girls”.

Well, this lead to a lot of discussion on marriage.

I asked “what is marriage?”
He said “when a girl and boy marry and they stay together, how you and papa are staying”

I said “so when you become big you will get marry. How big is your cousin brother who recently got married ?”

He said “only when you are big, go to school, then college then you work - you will need money also na”.

I asked “when do you want to marry,
He replied - “Mummy see I do not want to marry now, I was just reminding them when I am big, they should not forget na”.
I said “before marriage me and papa became good friends, and all friends do not get marry”. Some like each other, some do not. You may like a girl but girl will not like you."
He looked worried “but noon likes me”
Now it was sister’s turn “girls do not like when you dance funny or speak in funny way - you do that only onto the stage not in real”.
He looked little relieved “yes, only in acting you do funny”.

He asked “why can’t a boy marry a boy?”
I said “they can, they are called gay and if girls marry girls they are called lesbians”
He said “but I do not want to marry a boy”
He asked “why can’t I marry my sister ?
I said “you can have only one relationship. You already have sister brother relationship - like Pizza cannot be pizza and burger both”. He started laughing.

At the end I said “I enjoyed talking to you about marriage, you can share any time you have anything about marriage”.

He hugged me and went to sleepafter dance class my daughter (12yrs) was upset with my son (7yrs) “he was telling girls I want to marry you, now no one will talk to you”.

My son said “I only said to one girl, she did not listen to me, so I said to another girl, that’s all, I did not say to all the girls”.

Well, this lead to a lot of discussion on marriage.

I asked “what is marriage?”
He said “when a girl and boy marry and they stay together, how you and papa are staying”

I said “so when you become big you will get marry. How big is your cousin brother who recently got married ?”

He said “only when you are big, go to school, then college then you work - you will need money also na”.

I asked “when do you want to marry,
He replied - “Mummy see I do not want to marry now, I was just reminding them when I am big, they should not forget na”.
I said “before marriage me and papa became good friends, and all friends do not get marry”. Some like each other, some do not. You may like a girl but girl will not like you."
He looked worried “but noon likes me”
Now it was sister’s turn “girls do not like when you dance funny or speak in funny way - you do that only onto the stage not in real”.
He looked little relieved “yes, only in acting you do funny”.

He asked “why can’t a boy marry a boy?”
I said “they can, they are called gay and if girls marry girls they are called lesbians”
He said “but I do not want to marry a boy”
He asked “why can’t I marry my sister ?
I said “you can have only one relationship. You already have sister brother relationship - like Pizza cannot be pizza and burger both”. He started laughing.

At the end I said “I enjoyed talking to you about marriage, you can share any time you have anything about marriage”.

He hugged me and went to sleep